Even thoughtful people have lapses of judgement from time to time. (pg 58)
I have said at least once a week my whole adult life that there is an absolute disjunction between our Father’s love and our deserving. Still, when I see this same disjunction between human parents and children, it always irritates me a little. (I know you will be and I hope you are an excellent man, and I will love you absolutely if you are not.) (pg 73)
These people who can see right through you never quite do you justice, because they never give you credit for the effort you’re making to be better than you actually are, which is difficult and well meant and deserving of some little notice. (pg 98)
I’m trying to tell you things I might never have thought to tell you if I had brought you up myself, father and son, in the usual companionable way. When things are taking their ordinary course, it is hard to remember what matters. There are so many things you would never think to tell anyone. And I believe they may be the things that mean most to you, and that even your own child would have to know in order to know you well at all. (pg 102)
Children seem to think every pleasant thing has to be a surprise. (pg 117)
The story of Hagar and Ishmael came to mind while I was praying this morning, and I found a great assurance in it. The story says that it is not only the father of a child who cares for its life, who protects its mother, and it says that even if the mother can’t find a way to provide for it, or herself, provision will be made. At that level it is a story full of comfort. That is how life goes–we send our children into the wilderness. Some of them on the day they are born, it seems, for all the help we can give them. Some of them seem to be a kind of wilderness unto themselves. But there must be angels there, too, and springs of water. Even that wilderness, the very habitation of jackals, is the Lord’s. I need to bear this in mind. (pg 119)
It seems almost a cruelty for one generation to beget another when parents can secure so little for their children, so little safety, even in the best circumstances. Great faith is required to give the child up, trusting God to honor the parents’ love for him by assuring that there will indeed be angels in that wilderness. (pg 129)
I don’t know exactly what covetise is, but in my experience it is not so much desiring someone else’s virtue or happiness as rejecting it, taking offense at the beauty of it. (pg 188)
It is a good thing to know what it is to be poor, and a better thing if you can do it in company. (pg 199)
To me it seems rather Christlike to be as unadorned as this place is, as little regarded. I can’t help imagining that you will leave sooner or later, and it’s fine if you have done that, or you mean to do it. This whole town does look like whatever hope becomes after it begins to weary a little, then weary a little more. But hope deferred is still hope. I love this town. I think sometimes of going into the ground here as a last wild gesture of love–I too will smolder away the time until the great and general incandescence. (pg 247)







3 Comments
December 21, 2008 at 5:14 pm
Thanks for this post. I’ve tried to describe to friends the experience I’ve had reading this book but always seem to fail in capturing how soulful and beautiful the prose is. The quotes above are some of my favorite passages too.
August 3, 2009 at 3:12 pm
I hated this book. I think it was just boring and I could barely get myself through it. It has a good backbone, but the plot was poorly executed in my opinion. I just flat out hated this book.
August 3, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Don’t mince words, Rob, tell us how you really feel! *grin*
Different strokes for different folks. I really loved the book. Sorry you didn’t.
I might suggest a different email address for you, though. If you are going to leave a dummy email, maybe leave one that doesn’t disgust the person who is going to see it. Just a tip.